One True and Trusted Conversation at a Time

One True and Trusted Conversation at a Time was the message I chose for my recent TEDx talk in Canmore, Alberta (my home town). Little did I realize when I set out to do this talk that the message was to be a powerful learning for me personally. I’m not a speaker as such. Apart from my appearances on behalf of the IAC at the annual WBECS online conference for the past four years, I haven’t taken the stage as a keynote (or any other kind) of speaker. I have however, facilitated leadership groups and teams for many years. The largest
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Everything has it’s own time

I received this review today for my book, VOICES: “Voices is like a symphony of voyages that might never have been possible without nurturing questions and gentle attention. Read this book and you will be transported into another world and time. Your life will never be the same. When you read this book you get to experience what it is like to be in the presence of Aileen. It is magical, full of possibility and is no nonsense. It is truth telling and loving at the same time. Read it multiple times to transcend the layers. It is a story is pure
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You can never have too much coaching

In my last post, I talked about the need for every coach to have a coach. Today I experienced being coached in two very different ways on the same topic. Both were powerful and it made me think about the phenomenal value to be found in working with more than one coach. I’m thinking that I can never be ‘over-coached’ given the essential purpose, intention and deep desire to serve the client’s needs that are inherent in all great coaching. It was pretty clear to me that I needed some coaching. I had got myself into a confused muddle, preparing
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The Power of Reality

Even after two decades, I still find magical shifts and nuances to create even more powerful coaching conversations and experiences for my clients. Tackling some book-keeping and financial tasks this weekend opened me up to an insight on something I’ve been missing with my coaching clients. I’m not the world’s best at working on details and administrative tasks, so I’ve been somewhat neglectful recently of paying attention to my finances. I had some bills to pay, some invoices to send out and some files to tidy up. In my imagination, I knew my finances were not in the healthiest state
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Every Coach needs a Coach ………

…. and magic happens! As a member of the IAC  it’s a gift to be on the receiving end of coaching from masterly colleagues participating in the Path to Mastery Coaching Triads – a practice for regularly giving, receiving and reviewing our coaching skills with each other. My recent experience of being coached (you know who you are) was transformational. I gained some deep insights into my own needs and next steps. AND it created the opportunity for me to blog from the client perspective for a change. First, I’ll attempt to translate into words, the power of one question my
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Take it Easy

  I’ve heard myself inviting clients to “sink into and sit with” a key awareness or question recently. An invitation to slow down and take it in. An opportunity to explore in more depth what is coming into their coaching space. It builds on my last post. The shift from labelling something as “hard” and considering how it might be easier than first responses suggest. Those first responses are often based on unquestioned assumptions, which, when questioned, often disappear or diminish, allowing the situation to be approached from another perspective. Easing into this alternative perspective, often reveals a first step
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What if hard is easy?

  In coaching conversations this past week, I’ve been listening out for the self-interference (see my last blog post) in my clients. Here are some the ways it shows up: “I get so far with my project, Aileen, then these voices appear saying it’s not good enough, it’s got no substance, it’s flaky compared to what others do” “I’m frustrated at how long it’s taking to get a result” “I’ve got so much more ground work to do. When I’ve got that done, things will start to happen” “I’m holding back on that, until…..” “I’m not a real artist” “It’s
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Commitment vs Interference

  It seems to me that when you make a commitment to something, it’s an invitation for lots of interference to appear. I’ve done a good job of clearing lots of the external distractions and getting focused on my core work (to have amazing conversations that inspire transformation in my clients’ life and work) and have extended that commitment to my writing practice. One of the interferences that’s appearing though, is my own internal interference. In a conversation with another colleague, I started to over analyse what commitment to my core work looked like – how often I wanted to
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Commitment works

  Commitment and action produces results. No over thinking involved. No procrastination. No justification. Do it now! I started to write yesterday evening and this morning, due to a confusion over a client’s coaching time, I found myself writing again. Within 24 hours, I have written 4,500 words and part one of my book on Great Conversations is drafted! What might you produce if you commit and move to action? Do it now and enjoy the results! 
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Focus and Commitment

    “It’s about commitment” said my coach “all it takes is for you to commit and take action”. I’ve been focusing a lot on this concept of commitment – and naturally it starts to show up in my conversations with clients. I’ve been considering how it is the act of commitment that really leads to action and change. In order to get something different, in order to change something, in order to achieve a desired goal or result – it requires commitment to action. Every week I plan to write (you’ll notice that this is my first blog post
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