Right Questions – Guest Post on Bob Tiede’s Leading with Questions Blog

This was my most recent guest post for Bob Tiede’s Leading with Questions Blog: There’s a lot written these days about the benefits of leaders asking more questions rather than having to be the one who provides the answers. If you’re a leader who understands that the world is changing, who realizes that your style of knowing what’s right is no longer working — especially for the next generations you now manage in a fast-paced workplace and who seem to make things happen more creatively and expeditiously, albeit they might disregard what you consider to be the right way of
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The Practice of Deeper Conversations – Masterclass Series starting April 2018

Calling all graduates of DC week – I’m running a virtual Masterclass Series starting in April 2018. You can find all the details here: https://dctransformingconversation.lpages.co/masterclass-series-deeper-conversations/ I hope you’ll join me for this journey of practice and deepening of your conversation skills. (Oh – and it will also set you on track for IAC recognition if that’s a path you wish to take) See you online Warmest Aileen  
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Why you won’t find my book on Kindle

“I was hoping for a digital version” moans my thirty-year old niece. “I’ll wait for the kindle version” decides a fifty-something client. “When will there be an e-book version?” asks a colleague. The allure of online access and digital marketing is tempting. Part of me thinks that I should have an e-version. Won’t I be missing out on sales without one? And yet I’m resisting. As its author, I may have no control over how my book is received, and yet I have a clear vision of how I’d like it to do its work in the world. As I
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Are there any questions – Silence!

Bob Tiede of leadingwithquestions.com kindly asked me to contribute some guest articles to his brilliant blog/website, following the publication of my book Asking Great Questions (now available at Amazon.com). The first of my articles is published on his site this week and Bob did such a brilliant job of the photo and presentation. GUEST POST BY AILEEN GIBB, MMC (IAC), AUTHOR, “Are there any questions?” Silence. Awkward fidgeting. Heads down to avoid eye contact. If you’ve ever attended a meeting in any sizeable organization — from large town-hall type gatherings to small team talks or even one-on-one performance reviews, you are
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My latest contribution to the IAC VOICE newsletter.

Yes, I control what impacts me and how it does so. Today I was coaching with a client who is a self-confessed people pleaser. We untangled how her people-pleasing leads her to create overwhelm and undue pressure in her own life. She  will put others’ needs before her own and end up doing her own work late into the evening, after she’s used most of her day to keep others happy. She confesses she stressed when the client phone call before our scheduled time ran late causing her to worry that she would be late for her call with me.
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For your desk…

This just in – comments from client when she receive copy of Asking Great Questions: I’ve browsed all the way through, and gone back, and flipped through it several times. I’m keeping it on my desk. I’ve used your questions intentionally maybe 5 times already, with my team as well as family. I think many of us are genuinely interested in others and want to have a meaningful conversation in a safe context, going beyond the usual, how are you, and what do you think. We need the tools to do it, to step beyond our comfort zone and the
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Your Self-Impact

Yes, I control what impacts me and how it does so.  Today I was coaching with a client who is a self-confessed people pleaser. We untangled how her people-pleasing leads her to create overwhelm and undue pressure in her own life. She  will put others’ needs before her own and end up doing her own work late into the evening, after she’s used most of her day to keep others happy. She confesses she stressed when the client phone call before our scheduled time ran late causing her to worry that she would be late for her call with me. That translated
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Leading with Questions shares excerpt from my new book

The first sample copies of my new book, Asking Great Questions – an essential companion for every leader, arrived during our last DC week in Canmore with a group of great leaders, it was a thrill to see the book actually in print at last. My delight with the cover design probably shows in this snap photo taken moments after I had the book in my hands.     This photo was quickly posted on social media by some of the group I spent DC week with. As a result, I was contacted by the delightful Bob Tiede of the online
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Choosing Choice

My latest post for the International Association of Coaching newsletter. It’s been a great discipline this year to fulfill my commitment to write a post each month – two months to go. And maybe I’ll write another post on living with that discipline. This week alone I wrote three guest blog posts for another blog – leading with questions – that I’ve been graciously invited to contribute to by the delightful Bob Tiede. So thankful to develop more of my writing practice.  How ironic is it that I should have trouble choosing a theme for this article on choice? And
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the DEEPER CONVERSATIONS of life and leadership

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from two decades of coaching it’s that everything comes back to the conversation. As Judith Glaser cites in her book Conversational Intelligence (a quote I’ve used before here): “Getting to the next level of greatness depends on our culture. Our culture depends on the quality of our relationships. Our relationships depend on the quality of our conversation. Everything starts with conversation” And – I would add this piece – that real, meaningful, intentional and useful conversations starts with questions, quickly followed by deeply intentional and open listening. Conversation, I hear you say, that’s easy. We
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