Like Alice in Wonderland faced with the DRINK ME or DON’T DRINK ME choices – where in both cases she didn’t know what the consequences of her choice would be, making any choice becomes a bit of an adventure into the unknown.
In coaching, I’ve noticed that a client will often get stuck in making a choice. Precious coaching time can be consumed with an exploration of all the pros and cons of all the choices that seem to be available. Indeed, a valuable step of the coaching process is often to open up new choices that the client may not previously have considered were available to her. For some clients this is exciting and inspiring, for others it can become overwhelming. Sometimes the easiest way forward is when there are limited options to choose from. Sometimes the getting stuck comes from wanting to explore that myriad of choices in search of the ‘perfect’ option.
My preferred technique with clients is to recommend ‘experimenting’ with the various choices on offer. Like Alice, the option to try something out and see what happens, is where the learning, growth — or even failure — comes from. A potential choice can often be explored within the coaching conversation, yet ultimately, can only be put into practice with courage and sometimes daring experimentation. And of course, there is often the surprise that the imagined dire consequences which were holding a client back from making a choice to take that next step, will often turn out to be replaced by surprisingly successful results and impact.
Of all our coaching masteries, CHOICE, is, I believe the most empowering capacity to build in our clients. The capacity to choose is where true self-power inspires action.
Choice plus action then, brings results.
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